A few weeks ago, a friend posted a photo of himself on Instagram with a note that read: “If you’re wondering what I did to make my life better, I started this blog.
It’s just been a love letter to the people I care about.”
I’d always loved a good blog post and wanted to write one, but I couldn’t find anything that I’d used before.
So I took to my computer and started to scribble notes.
The first thing I wrote was the obituary of a friend, a man who passed away from ALS last summer.
It was a short list of highlights: I got engaged to my fiancé last year, got a job at the grocery store, got my dog back, and got a great friend.
I’ve also been able to make new friends with people who don’t look the same as me.
I’m an avid traveler, so I’ve been able not only to experience new places and new people, but also to connect with people in the places I’ve always lived.
Then I started to think about the things that I loved most, like my work, and the things I’d most miss about my job.
I wanted to know how to write an obit that I could feel happy about and feel comfortable writing about.
The next thing I did was go to my favorite blog, Jeopardy!
and see what others had to say.
I was inspired by the people who commented on my blog post, and by the responses that came in from people who had already read the post and were eager to write something of their own.
The following day, I began to write the obits.
I didn’t think of it as an exercise in writing the obituaries of my friends, but rather as a way to give back to those people.
The post that I started with was a simple one: I’ve just gotten engaged to a guy who I love, and we’re moving to the suburbs in May.
The rest of the posts on the blog reflect that.
It started as a simple way to help out the people that I love and the people in my life that I’ve grown close to.
As time went on, I grew more and more inspired by people’s responses.
People loved it!
I love that people care about what I do.
I love the way that I write.
People are so generous.
I think I could use a few more words.
Here’s a sample of some of the responses I’ve received: “You are the best writer I have ever had the privilege of meeting.
It is such a pleasure to work with you, you are a treasure to all of us.”
“You’re so thoughtful, so funny, and your writing is so amazing.”
“It’s hard to put into words how much you mean to me.
This is a really special moment in my own life and my career.
You’re the best.”
“I’m so thankful for you, because it has given me a lot of inspiration and helped me get through tough times.”
I love hearing from people that have written about their obituary, and I think it’s really important that they do that.
A lot of people have taken to Twitter and Instagram to share their thoughts on my obituies, and you can see some of their tweets and posts here.
What are your favorite ways to share your obituys?